If you are reading this post, chances are you’re wondering how to best support your partner in her plastic surgery journey.

You might be thinking: “I want to support my partner in her decision to pursue plastic surgery, but I don’t want her to feel like I am telling her she needs plastic surgery to be beautiful!” Or perhaps, “I want her to feel as beautiful as she is to me.” Sometimes, “I watch her smile fade every time she looks in the mirror and my heart aches for her. How can I be there for her?”

I have heard that so much recently. You know what? I applaud you. Thank you for listening to your wife, girlfriend, or fiancée’s concerns. It is so important that she be heard, seen and to have you in her corner.

Support your partner with plastic surgeon research

You know she is bothered by her looks. Do you suggest plastic surgery? Or do you start to get palpitations just thinking about it? Let me tell you something — if it crossed your mind, chances are high that she has been thinking about plastic surgery, too.

If you are comfortable, ask her if it bothers her enough to go see someone. Tell her you will help her every step of the way. Be as honest and open as you can when you bring it up. A simple opening question can be something like, “I notice you are grabbing your belly every time we get ready to go out. Is that really bothering you? Did you want to see someone about that?”

When it comes to communication, I suggest you ask questions and then listen. And I strongly recommend that you do your research! It is a great way to support your partner in this process.

Our all-female team help our patients feel comfortable facing this emotional journey. Studies show that women spend more time listening to their patients than men. Additional studies show outcomes for female patients of female surgeons are better than outcomes for male surgeons.

Even more studies (done by men!) show that patients of female doctors have lower mortality rates than patients of male doctors. I am not surprised. It turns out you can learn a lot about someone by listening to them. And sometimes, that little bit you learned can make a big difference.

Plastic surgery consultation

After you help her research plastic surgeons, make sure you join her for the plastic surgery consultation. So many partners come to the consult and tell me, “I want her to know I love her for who she is.” Then, after the consult they see exactly how plastic surgery can change her life.

Perhaps lightening the load of breast tissue she is carrying with a Breast Reduction, will open her to play sports and run around with the kids. Or maybe the Tummy Tuck and muscle repair will give her the confidence to travel and feel good about herself in her clothes. Together, you both may realize that the reason she can’t lose weight with working out is because her six-pack muscles of her core are overstretched. Sometimes surgery is needed to address these challenges after pregnancy, breastfeeding and normal aging. There are options to help women regain a look to match the way they feel – young and beautiful.

A lot of times, a woman is worried that thinking about plastic surgery makes her vain. It is your job as her support person to help her shed the shame and instead show herself grace. Motherhood is the great equalizer. Regardless of whether she is a celebrity, works from home or office, has had kids, or otherwise. The consultation with your female board-certified plastic surgeon is where the both of you can learn if plastic surgery is right for you. It is an information-gathering experience, and the more ears there are to listen, the better!

Next steps

Let’s get to the bottom line. If your partner is feeling down about her body, ask her if she wants your help to look at options. If she does, research board certified plastic surgeons and consult with her to find a good fit. You will know quickly if they have your best interests at heart.

There should be no pressure during or after the consultation to schedule surgery. Read their reviews. Visit the before-and-after gallery. Make sure you build that trust so that you can support your partner with achieving their goals with plastic surgery.

Are you interested in learning more? Call (919) 797-0996 to schedule your consultation with Dr. Shruti Tannan today!

Folks come to see us from all over. It is common for our patients to travel from all the corners of Raleigh plus Apex, Holly Springs, Fuqua-Varina, Cary, Morrisville, Durham, Chapel Hill, Carrboro, Pittsboro, Garner, Knightdale, RTP, Winston-Salem, Kernersville, Clemmons, Wake Forest, Wilmington, Fayetteville and the surrounding areas for our unique approach to cosmetic plastic surgery, Botox, and filler.

If you are looking for the best plastic surgeon and the best Botox injector for you, be sure to do your research! We hope our all-women, all-star team can help you regain your confidence and move forward as the brightest version of you.